the attitude that “you shouldn’t destroy his life over one mistake” is still incredibly common, whether the mistake in question is an inappropriate comment in a professional context or an unsolicited dick pic or full on sexual assault, but it’s an attitude that rests on some really weird assumptions if you think about it: if the action is so heinous that merely to make it public would destroy him, why on earth did he do it? and if the mistake is so minor that he should suffer no consequences for it, why would making it public do him any harm?
it’s like someone keeps sneaking into your house to take a shit in your fridge, and everyone agrees it’s wrong but insists that it would be even more wrong to tell him to knock it off.
who bears the cost, that’s the question.
